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In Brené Brown’s most recent book, Atlas of the Heart-Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience, she explains that, “Envy occurs when we want something that another person has.”
Yet, Brené goes on to explain that, unlike jealousy, envy has a more sinister and hostile spin to it: “I want that, and I don’t want you to have it. I also want you to be pulled down and put down.”
You know the feeling of envy (even if it’s hard to admit).
This is one of our most unsavory emotions - familiar to all, uncomfortable (even embarrassing) for most.
Many of us refuse to even acknowledge our feelings of envy… because what does that say about who we are?
What does that say about who we wish to be?
But what if you could use your feelings of envy to spark your own inspiration?
In my upcoming Name, Claim & Reframe Workbook, I offer you a portal through which you can TRANSFORM your feelings of envy… to something better (to something helpful). Today I want to share a modified excerpt from the workbook!
Because here’s the thing: My NCR method helps you explore your feelings of envy and transform them into a superpower that offers clarity about YOU. You can discover more about what you want and need by facing your envy head-on.
Envy offers you an opportunity to catch yourself reacting… then choose instead to respond by first understanding the feelings of “want” & “wanting.” (Remember when we talked about reactions v. responses a few weeks back?)
In other words: Rather than being triggered to dip below the line, you choose to use envy as a spark for self-reflection to gain new insight and gather real motivation to move along YOUR most fulfilled life journey.
Here’s a practice you can try right now: Describe a current (or past) situation where another person evoked feelings of envy OR a sense of pain when you considered their success.
NAME: What is this below the line emotion telling you about the desires that need to be attended to in yourself?
CLAIM: What parts of yourself may need or want more expression?
REFRAME: How can you reframe your mindset to envelop this new information?
Now take it a step further:
What would you need to change in YOUR behavior, routines, or priorities to attend to those desires and parts of yourself that need more expression?
From this vantage point: What about this other person is inspiring or opening possibilities for YOU?
The Ugly Green Monster Of Envy ONLY comforts those of us who fear this exploration…
In fact, envy “soothes” your worries and “justifies” your inaction.
But when you choose to explore the reasons why envy shows up, you set the stage for different (and better!) possibilities.
Why waste your precious energy on such a small-minded emotion when inside your truth lives a magnificent, beautiful, wondering painting… just waiting for your vision, devotion, and love!
Try the practice above, and let me know how it goes!
Or, if you want to practice healing from ENVY and interpersonal conflict with me…
I invite you to join my upcoming NCR Salon on May 16
Use the NCR tools to understand past conflicts so you can apply “above-the-line” thinking to heal and REFRAME a negative experience with new perspectives and a refreshed vision for the person you are becoming.
Save your seat today for just $97.
Until next time,
Andrea
💫 Andrea
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P.S. Whenever you’re ready to take the next steps along YOUR path to a well-lived life, I’ve got a handful of resources to help -
1. What is your leading leadership energy? Every person, regardless of gender identity, possesses both feminine and masculine energies and the capacity to integrate these two sides of their wholeness.
Do you know whether you lean toward masculine OR feminine energy in your leadership roles? Take this 5-minute quiz and find out!
2. Grab my best-selling book: Name, Claim & Reframe. Learn how to align with your divine feminine ingenuity by releasing the age-old belief that the strong need to become warring Warriors. My 3-step strategy will help you gracefully navigate your path to a well-lived life (and this book is a great place to start!)
3. Join me for an upcoming Name, Claim & Reframe Salon. Like a mock-tail party for the mind, each themed salon invites you to gather and discuss new ideas to expand your thinking about self-power. These LIVE workshop events will help you practice and implement the Name, Claim & Reframe Method - one step at a time!